Therapy for Relationships & Attachment

When old patterns show up in present relationships

Relationships can bring some of our deepest patterns to the surface.

Maybe you become anxious when someone pulls away. You find yourself needing reassurance even when part of you knows everything is okay. You avoid conflict, put other people’s needs ahead of your own, struggle to set boundaries, or shut down when someone gets too close.

You might notice yourself choosing similar relationships again and again, or reacting in ways that don’t seem to match what’s happening in the moment.

How we learned to experience closeness, trust, conflict, and emotional safety can be influenced by our earliest relationships as well as experiences we’ve had later in life. Patterns that once helped us maintain connection or protect ourselves can sometimes follow us into relationships where we no longer need them in the same way.

How I Can Help

Together, we can look at the patterns you notice in your relationships, how past experiences may have shaped them, and what happens for you during moments of closeness, conflict, or rejection.

We can also pay attention to how these experiences feel in your body. Maybe you notice yourself tensing up, shutting down, or wanting to pull away. Through mindfulness and body-based approaches, we can work on understanding these responses and finding ways to respond that feel right for you.

Along the way, we can focus on what you need from your relationships, how to communicate those needs, and how to set boundaries that support the kinds of connections you want to build.